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11 July 2010 @ 02:20 am
Quick things  
HAPPY BIRTHDAY al_hazel ! I hope you are having a lovely one!

* Some bastard ran into our car and drove off, which is why we cannot open the drivers' door and why I have no new shelves from Ikea. BOO! I think we will finally sell it since it was used once last month and this would have been its first drive this month.

* I finally picked up the first of the Temeraire books, which deensey  thrust into my hands ages ago -- I foolishly popped onto a (laden) shelf at the time. I am loving it!

* After thinking about it for days after a friend brought the topic up, I have worked out why I like warnings and hate 'trigger alerts'. It's partly because warnings usually focus on big things that aren't part of the average person's everyday existence, including death and sexual violence and so on. So I like them because they warn for things that one can reasonably plan to avoid in an average day, in fanfic as much as in the street. Trigger alerts on the other hand are facing a range of issues so broad as to be basically useless (for example, I often need a little cup of tea when I see someone ploughed down by a car on telly, but not everyone has been run over as often as I have, so I can't sensibly make a fuss that it's a trigger, even if it is). But that isn't actually what makes me cranky about the word (one that should go back to psychology, where it belongs). It's the presumptuousness of it all: 'Oh yes, your writing is SO affecting that the reader is BOUND to need several cups of tea at least if they are confronted by it!'

Which is not totally fair on my part as some people use the term in good faith (though others don't). But 'warning' to me says that the author wants the reader to make an informed choice, while 'trigger' seems overkill, like warnings for nuts on a bag of peanuts. If your fic contains something that you know is liable to upset a significant part of the readership, why not just warn? Tell the reader how they're going to react and they may end up like me, watching half the car accidents on telly and shouting 'What a load of bullshit!' out of sheer perversity.

And yes, I did just watch several hours of the Tour de France out of similar willful bloody-mindedness. Thankfully, Robbie McEwan sustained no further injuries –  I think that's a first.
Vaysh Swiftstormvaysh on July 10th, 2010 05:14 pm (UTC)
*Oh yes, your writing is SO affecting that the reader is BOUND to need several cups of tea at least if they are confronted by it!'

That! *lol* Exactly. :) Totally made my day. *off to find some tea*
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 10th, 2010 05:22 pm (UTC)
I went to see a therapist after one car v Brammers incident, just because I was worried that the next time someone honked at me for no reason I was going to throw my U-lock through their window and then throttle them until their teeth fell out.

She was great, and told me that rage was probably better directed into physiotherapy, and gave me a few good breathing exercises that I could use in case I found myself ever a heartbeat away from vicious strangulating of motorists.

I went back the next week because I had booked two appointments and thought I should use them up. She was sick and had in a locum. Who proceeded to produce so much psychobabble that I had to use my freshly learned breathing exercises to save his scrawny throat.

It may be that I am not the best person in the world to talk about 'triggers', I will admit that.
Vaysh Swiftstormvaysh on July 10th, 2010 05:27 pm (UTC)
Breathing exercises are something we all should learn at a young age.

Did you read Cats' post from today, btw? I cannot believe the two of your, thousands of miles apart, had their cars run in by strangers at the same day. *hugs*
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 10th, 2010 05:32 pm (UTC)
I DID! I KNOW! Though I was happy hers came to confess. Ours didn't even leave a note, bastard. Oh well, we have enough money for it not to be a disaster, and it may be the final push to get rid of the bloody thing, which we should have done a few years ago when the local car-sharing scheme took off.

And I did actually learn lots of good breathing exercises when I was young, I just wrote a lot of them off as hippie muck, which made me look quite the idiot when the nice therapist was all: 'No, they're actually exactly the same and really good for you.' We agreed that I would be more accepting of hippie muck in future if I could continue to reject tie-dye without question.
Catscatsintheattic on July 10th, 2010 06:13 pm (UTC)
We could officially name it "run over a car" day ...
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 11th, 2010 11:52 am (UTC)
Oh no, some people would take that as a challenge for next year! *Sympathises with our cars*

At least neither of us were in them at the time!
Catscatsintheattic on July 11th, 2010 12:18 pm (UTC)
I see ... starting a tradition would indeed be too harmful to the cars - so, no namesake day.

At least neither of us were in them at the time!

That puts things into perspective. I was once bashed from my bike by an opening car door - the only traffic accident I ever had. No, I wouldn't want to repeat things like this being inside a car that gets run over.

Edited at 2010-07-11 12:18 pm (UTC)