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01 December 2016 @ 01:21 am
Oh …  
My mother rang me early this morning.

This is a thing she does occasionally, usually when I am working regular hours, or when she has turned up unexpectedly in the same city as me and thinks we should eat together. But sometimes, as today, because someone has died. This time it was her brother, my uncle. A difficult man, who neither of us was close to and who we both ended up on speaking terms with only after a lot of patience on our parts and effort on his.

So it is that strange sort of thing where you are sad that someone has died, and that they did not seem to be able to make happy choices much of the time, but know that you can't in fairness take a week out to be miserable about the whole thing, because you don't have a week's worth of decent memories to sustain it.

But I do recall a thing he said the last time we saw each other: that he wouldn't want to see Donald Trump as president of the USA. I feel that – not for the first time, though almost certainly for the last – he's taken a perfectly understandable position to an illogical extreme.
 
 
 
illereynillereyn on November 30th, 2016 02:27 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear that about your uncle. *hugs*
blamebramptonblamebrampton on November 30th, 2016 02:37 pm (UTC)
Cheers, ears. He was not well for the last few years of his life, but it was a shock to have him go suddenly. I do know that he had a fear of a lingering end, so I suppose that's something … Such an odd phrase. 'That's something' always makes me feel as though I have just said something along the lines of 'Well, at least he wasn't eaten slowly by lions …'
宝井かりん: LDH - エリオット・昂矢takarai_karin on November 30th, 2016 02:30 pm (UTC)
Very sorry about your loss *hugs* if you want.

Edited at 2016-11-30 02:30 pm (UTC)
blamebramptonblamebrampton on November 30th, 2016 02:34 pm (UTC)
Hugs are always welcome! And your icons are always such beautiful people, so it is like being cheered up by loveliness at the same time as a hug (exactly like, as you are a very lovely person).
宝井かりん: LDH - エリオット・昂矢takarai_karin on November 30th, 2016 02:42 pm (UTC)
I'm glad I could cheer you up even just a bit :3

And thanks for the icon-love, that's Elly, he's a dancer, a grandma's boy, and a lovely human being that would, upon picking up a Happy Mother's Day card somebody lost in his concert venue would actually go and look for said mother amongst the concert goers (and found her!) to give her the card back. He would be happy to hear he's bringing some brightness into people's life.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on November 30th, 2016 02:45 pm (UTC)
He sounds terrific! More people like Elly would be a very fine addition to the world right now!
mama_pyjamamama_pyjama on November 30th, 2016 02:30 pm (UTC)
I didn't want to let let this pass unremarked. I am sorry for your loss, because even difficult people leave a hole in the fabric of your life. And your last line made me laugh, but also wince as it is also the sort of thing my difficult uncle would say...
blamebramptonblamebrampton on November 30th, 2016 02:33 pm (UTC)
Thanks, dear! I'm just pleased he got to do a few fun things in his final year and we had a few conversations that neither of us wanted to actively flee from. Ten years ago I would have sworn both would be impossible goals.
germankittygermankitty on November 30th, 2016 05:20 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. *hugs*
blamebramptonblamebrampton on December 1st, 2016 12:25 pm (UTC)
Thanks, dear! We weren't close, but it's sad he died much younger than he had to.
Jaeenchanted_jae on November 30th, 2016 05:25 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on December 1st, 2016 12:26 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Jae. Trying to work out the song list for his funeral now, because no-one else here knows anything about the Alan Parsons Project, his fave band.
Catherine17catherines on December 1st, 2016 01:54 am (UTC)
I am sorry for your loss.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on December 1st, 2016 12:27 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Cate. We weren't close, but it's sad.
some kind of snark faeryshyfoxling on December 1st, 2016 10:08 pm (UTC)
that he wouldn't want to see Donald Trump as president of the USA. I feel that – not for the first time, though almost certainly for the last – he's taken a perfectly understandable position to an illogical extreme.

*snerk* I saw similar remarks about Fidel Castro - apparently he once said something about swearing to live to see the US destroyed, so of course once we elected Trump he promptly kicked the bucket.
valkyrie17valkyrie17 on December 2nd, 2016 05:54 am (UTC)
Sorry for your loss. Even the difficult people in our lives leave us missing something when they are gone.
this mundane stuff called lifewinnett on December 2nd, 2016 03:46 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear it.

When my father died I was more pissed than sad... it was all due to his own poor choices. I wish you closure in any way, and never feel guilty about not feeling torn up about it.
boodiedharawal on December 3rd, 2016 05:07 am (UTC)
I am sorry for your loss, unfortunately I felt much the same way when my father died, I just did not have that many pleasant memories that I could reflect on, and while I'm sad that he's gone, I'm not sad on my own behalf, but more for my Sister who is having trouble coming to terms with his passing. It hurts me tremendously to see her so upset and now coming to Christmas, the first one without him and also the anniversary of my mum's passing I'm worried at how she will cope.
Nennenenne on December 6th, 2016 02:56 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.