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28 July 2009 @ 09:21 am
Drive-by am not kidnapped by aliens post  
Brammers: Oh god, apparently five of my friends have invited me to be on Facebook.

Brammers' young friend: OMIGOD! I can't believe you're not on Facebook! You should totally be there!

B: I'm old, dear, the first number in my age is a four.

BYF: You're NOT old. And besides, my mum is in her forties and she's on Facebook.

B: I'm old and I have no children I need to stalk on Facebook. Also, I'll just be over there having a little cry for the next few minutes ...



Back to the work, editing and writing. Slowly catching up!
 
 
 
Nienna: The Moon and the Yew Treeniennas_gift on July 27th, 2009 11:34 pm (UTC)
I'm having similar experiences lately - people emailing me inviting me to be their friend, some of their names I don't even recognize. I'm a hold-out, but I'm going to give in as soon as I find time to set up yet another internet point of entry because it does seem like an easy and relatively painless way to keep in touch with people. But it's amazing how frumpy I've become. I'm suspicious of Twitter and I still haven't figured out what a "phone app" is.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 27th, 2009 11:39 pm (UTC)
Hee! (Confession: I do have a Twitter account, but only to keep track of people who are travelling.)

My phone makes calls and sends messages, that's it. I think I need some parts of the day that are unconnected to the web. If Tim Berners-Lee can do it, so can I!

But if you stop holding out, I'll not judge you: it does seem an easy way to stay in touch. I just found out a friend is in London, which explains why I haven't seen him for a while ...
(no subject) - annes_stuff on July 28th, 2009 12:33 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - blamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:27 pm (UTC) (Expand)
cassie_blackcassie_black12 on July 27th, 2009 11:34 pm (UTC)
You're definitely not too old. My parents are both in their early sixties, and despite mocking my facebook addiction in the beginning, now have one of their very own.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 27th, 2009 11:37 pm (UTC)
TO STALK YOU WITH!!!
Coffeejunkii: hermione are you serious??coffeejunkii on July 27th, 2009 11:35 pm (UTC)
facebook is evil! resist, resist, resist.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 27th, 2009 11:37 pm (UTC)
I am resisting! (It's made much easier by the fact I lack the time for my fave timewasting as it is ;-)
(no subject) - coffeejunkii on July 27th, 2009 11:59 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - blamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:28 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - meredyth_13 on July 27th, 2009 11:50 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - coffeejunkii on July 28th, 2009 12:00 am (UTC) (Expand)
pingridpingrid on July 27th, 2009 11:41 pm (UTC)
You're certainly not too old! But do read their TOS first, they reserve some pretty extensive rights to your stuff, like the right to use any pic you've uploaded and manipulate it first if they like. Which probably isn't a huge deal in practice, but be aware. Also, it used to be that you couldn't actually delete your profile if you wanted to leave - don't know if they've changed that. I hardly ever ever use my facebook account, but YMMV! :)
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:34 pm (UTC)
That's one of the things that bothers me. The fact that I have a hard time keeping up with the people in my life as it is probably the major factor, though.
oops: Smileoddishly on July 27th, 2009 11:46 pm (UTC)
Well, this young person thinks it'd be pretty awesome if you were on Facebook, and would like to agree that you're not old, either, and also to point out that her mother who is in her fifties has an account. (Even if it is to stalk me with!)
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:35 pm (UTC)
I need more time to write more stories for more money so I can come and stalk you in person! (And probably hang out with your mum ;-)
suonguyensuonguyen on July 27th, 2009 11:53 pm (UTC)
LOL you should totally get a facebook account! I have on and I must admit the people I've managed to reconnect with is quite awesome! Especially friends you never though you'd hear from again. Plus its so random you can see what people are thinking and such.

I have friends from work who are in their fifties at least and still trolling facebook, I wouldn't worry about seeming stalkerish if I were you.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:35 pm (UTC)
I try to avoid people I've lost contact with, though! I was younger, hotter and did more interesting things when I knew them ;-)
Meredythmeredyth_13 on July 27th, 2009 11:54 pm (UTC)
I have multiple 4's, honey. And I refuse to do the facebook thingy, or the myspace thingy, or that twit thingy. My cousin keeps sending me facebook invites - I shun him madly.

It's nothing to do with being old, and everything to do with choosing not to follow a fad for the sake of it. I'm not sure what it is about those forums that I object to (actually, there's a lot of things I do know I object to, but won't go into here), but I do object to them.

Maybe it is about being old after all?

*goes off grumbling into her chin hairs*
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:36 pm (UTC)
It's about needing more time for the things we already have on! *Holds out in the Mere camp*
Dedicated Escape Artist: LOB facepalmjadzialove on July 27th, 2009 11:57 pm (UTC)
Confession: I have a Facebook. *hangs head in shame*

I was coerced, I swear!

And I don't use it that often. Honest!
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:38 pm (UTC)
Oh, it's like listening to my young friends explain how they happened to end up stealing street signs after drinking half a bottle of Cointreau ...
bonfoi: squigglebonfoi on July 28th, 2009 12:04 am (UTC)
Don't sweat the Facebook...it's easy to ignore! *grin*
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:44 pm (UTC)
And in a few weeks, they'll send me another email and I will know what people are doing again!
Loyaulte Me Lie: brand new information!!!shocolate on July 28th, 2009 12:32 am (UTC)
Guess what the second most FAQ is in the Facebook Help??

How Do I Permanently Delete My Account?
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:44 pm (UTC)
I find that incredibly easy to believe.
maggiemarguerite_26 on July 28th, 2009 12:46 am (UTC)
Facebook? Do. Not. Want.

Why would I want that guy that used to pick his nose in 8th grade saying hey to me? Er? Who are you and why are you excited that we've reconnected? Or god, my first boyfriend. or my first prom date or my first... yeah. Do. Not. Want.

Have moved away from my home town and LOVE the fact that I don't get asked 'I haven't seen you in ages! What's new?' by virtual strangers that expect me to give them actual answers. o.O
Bryoneybryoneybrynn on July 28th, 2009 12:56 am (UTC)
Have moved away from my home town and LOVE the fact that I don't get asked 'I haven't seen you in ages! What's new?' by virtual strangers that expect me to give them actual answers. o.O

I heart you SO HARD! lol
(no subject) - marguerite_26 on July 28th, 2009 01:31 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - blamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 01:54 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Bryoneybryoneybrynn on July 28th, 2009 12:55 am (UTC)
Canadians, for some reason, really love Facebook. Like early on, huge numbers of us were on it. I have no idea why. And lots of "old" people are on it. I don't really use it. I can only handle one social networking site at a time. Even twitter is too much for me! lol But I clearly have issues, both emotional and organizational. I'm sure you're savvy enough to figure it out.

BTW, how is your foot and/or shoulder? I'm a horrible friend and can't even remember your injuries. *irons ears ala dobby* I wish you'd come to Canada. I was sad you didn't make it to Azkatraz. Though perhaps it was for the best. I seemed to spend all my time petting EVERYBODY and, and I seem to recall you saying you're more of the firm handshake type! lol
maggiemarguerite_26 on July 28th, 2009 01:32 am (UTC)
OH! I have attempted to adopt Brammers into my family and am using this as an excuse to get her to Canada. :)
(no subject) - blamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:07 pm (UTC) (Expand)
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boodiedharawal on July 28th, 2009 12:57 am (UTC)
I've had a facebook for a while, and only just got around to adding my eldest to it. To her shame, I mainly use it to play games on. I like grinding people into the dirt when I play Yahtzee or Scrabble and boasting about it 8-)
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:08 pm (UTC)
HEH! One of the magazines I worked on had an art department that was utterly addicted to Scrabble on Facebook. The only time they ever came to the subs department was in search of word help ;-)
carnadosacarnadosa on July 28th, 2009 01:28 am (UTC)
Both of my parents got one before me and they're both in their 50s. Until fairly recently, the extent of my dad's computer knowledge was how to turn one on. (It's still pretty limited, thumb drives confound him.)

My mom's friends list is about 4x larger then mine. She's definitely not there to stalk me.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:09 pm (UTC)
Parents who are not there for stalking are there for plotting. When the OAP revolution comes creeping down your street, remember that I warned you ;-)
feralcheryl on July 28th, 2009 01:57 am (UTC)
Dude, even I'm on FB.
But I don't have a 4 yet (at least not for another week ;)
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:11 pm (UTC)
Bloody young people ...

(Which reminds me, is there anything you actually WANT for that birthday? I have some good ideas on what you could get, but am happy to be over-ridden ;-)
It's that Bucket woman!curia_regis on July 28th, 2009 02:05 am (UTC)
I got facebook originally because somebody told me that apparently recruitment companies look you up to see what kind of person you are and if you have friends. :| I was all O.o I'd better get one and get some friends friended quick!
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:13 pm (UTC)
One of the few advantages to getting older is that in some industries, such as mine, you need never worry about interviews or recruitment companies again.

Were I young, I would allegedly be very interested in economics, current affairs and hang-gliding ;-)
bare_memabonwitch on July 28th, 2009 03:50 am (UTC)
Why would I want to be on Facebook?!? Because really, my idea of a good time is NOT "reconnecting" with people I left behind ON PURPOSE!

Just sayin'. If I'd wanted to stay friends, I would've kept in touch. And if you happen to be one of the two people I would've kept in touch with, if not for your crappy letter-writing skills, you are likely not any better on Facebook.

Also, I am incapable of social networking without the sort of information that I'd rather employers didn't have easy access to. I like to work somewhere at least two months before anyone starts going "Who? Oh, yeah, she's the weird one."
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:15 pm (UTC)
Alas, in my case it is usually MY crappy letter writing skills, but otherwise, EXACTLY!
Brissygirlbrissygirl on July 28th, 2009 05:14 am (UTC)
I'm not on facebook either! BUT my mother is and she is in her 60's so is her partner. They play with a virtual farm! LOL

I don't really see the point to the whole thing myself.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:27 pm (UTC)
Yes, those oldies are plotting something. They say 'virtual farm', but they mean Coalition for Proper Language and Trousers that Cover One's Knickers!
the center of the room and beyond: computersnottygrrl on July 28th, 2009 06:21 am (UTC)
facebook is totally evil. don't get near it if at all possible (though you can't use your age since both my folk are on it — and use it quite thoroughly — and are in their early 70's).
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:29 pm (UTC)
The oldies are using it for nefarious means!

Since I am virtuous, I am staying well away ;-)
(no subject) - snottygrrl on July 29th, 2009 06:30 am (UTC) (Expand)
daybreaqdaybreaq on July 28th, 2009 06:35 am (UTC)
The first number in my age is a four too and I have a Facebook account. I believe it got started when a friend invited me and I needed to join to see some photos she had. Then my sisters (both with ages that start with threes) found my account and "friended" me and started sending me all sorts of silly games which I ignored. During Thanksgiving at our dad's, my youngest sister started complaining I have no photos or pretty much anything at all in my profile and demanded my password. She then put this whole profile in. She also pretty much "friended" our whole family to this account. Apparently, I was the only one in our generation (of which I am one of the eldest) not adequately connected. Later, multitudes of people I've known have found me through this account. I kinda passively use it. I don't contact others through it but they seem to contact me. I get invitations to cousins' baby showers through it.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:34 pm (UTC)
I have so little time, my theory is that when my friends realise I've not responded to facebook invites for a while, they'll ring or email me ;-)

I think that facebook is designed for people exactly unlike me: I hate having my photo taken, would rather write something long than short, and like to be able to hide when I want to ;-)
grey_hunter on July 28th, 2009 06:52 am (UTC)
If not having a facebook means you're old then let's be old together. :) But honestly, why would anyone want their face up on the internet? *is blissed out on ignorance*
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:35 pm (UTC)
EXACTLY!!
Kareinakareina on July 28th, 2009 08:20 am (UTC)
It isn't about age--my mother loves her facebook account, and she's nearly 70. Some of the people you know resist it because they left people behind "on purpose". However, I've moved enough that I'd lost touch with people that I've really, really missed, and I am overjoyed to have found so many of them again.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:39 pm (UTC)
You're one of the people who I could see as being a useful user of it. Alas, most of the people who invite me just want someone to play long-distance scrabble with ;-)
(no subject) - kareina on July 28th, 2009 07:30 pm (UTC) (Expand)
spark_of_chaosspark_of_chaos on July 28th, 2009 11:17 am (UTC)
Okay, tell you a secret? FB freaks me out! It's perfectly okay to keep in touch with the people you want to keep in touch with via, say, phone, emails, Skype, text and IM. I really don't feel like I should splay myself all over the intawebz just so some random person who barely remembers me can trip over my account somewhere and say um.hi?

blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:44 pm (UTC)
I knew we were twins on the Important Matters.
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AutumnHearti_autumnheart on July 28th, 2009 11:33 am (UTC)
I have a FB account because it gives old friends and my extended family a way to keep in contact without any of us actually having to track addresses (email or post) and phone numbers. Having the account is different from actually *posting* anything on FB, though: I mostly don't bother with that bit. It's mostly just an online Christmas Card list.

I don't understand the appeal of Twitter: if I'm doing something so interesting that I really feel the need to tell the world (v.rare), then I'm going to need more than 140 characters to talk about it anyway.
blamebramptonblamebrampton on July 28th, 2009 02:45 pm (UTC)
Hee. You, like kareina, are one of the few people I know who would use it sanely.

Twitter is great for I am Here, Where Are You? and I Have A Short and Hilarious Comment To Make, but that's about it ...
maya231maya231 on July 28th, 2009 10:24 pm (UTC)
I am yet a Facebook and twitter holdout, despite much peer pressure. Fortunately peer pressure often just makes me more contrary.